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6 ways to be a more positive person and attract people

We must be more positive and cheerful people, it is the only way to attract people and not be lonely, resulting in a feeling of happiness and fulfilment.... , 2020-05-24

Each of us has a set of messages that play over and over again in our minds. This internal dialogue, or self-talk, influences our words, actions, habits, relationships and ultimately, in the words of Lao Tzu, the destiny of our lives.

Too often, the pattern of self-talk we have developed is negative. This inner seed of negativity causes a dark ripple that spreads to all corners of our daily lives. We walk around with a dark cloud hovering nearby, and we see all the glasses as half empty. Our conversations always return to all that is wrong with the world, and we are constantly expecting the worst.

This negative approach to life can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Concepts such as the law of attraction, "you reap what you sow" and "birds of a feather flock together" talk about the magnetic power of our thoughts. Many studies confirm the correlation between positive thinking and success.

So how can we begin to brighten our worldview and infuse more positivity into our thought patterns? Although fairly simple, these six steps can have a profound impact on your approach to life and ultimately create a more positive outcome.


Practice gratitude

One of the quickest ways to shift your focus from negativity, judgement and disappointment is to make a list of the things in your life that you are grateful for.

Be grateful for being gainfully employed, for sleeping in a bed every night, for the sun that rises every morning, for the waiter who greets you with a smile, for the people who love you, and for a body that allows you to experience life every day.

Practising gratitude can cause an almost immediate change in your perspective. Keeping a daily gratitude journal, even digitally, can help remind you to keep life's blessings at the forefront of your mind.

Another strategy is to have a gratitude buddy: someone who can support you on your journey to positive thinking. Each day, send a text message, email or tell each other three things you are grateful for. Think of this person as your accountability partner for your path to healthy thinking.


Two steps forward

Initially, it may be difficult to stop the negative flow of thoughts. This change takes time. Be patient with yourself, and first try to observe your thought patterns. See if you can catch yourself judging others, focusing on failures, complaining about work, or criticising yourself or your body. When you observe these thoughts, take a moment to counter each negative thought with two positive observations or gratitudes. Think of yourself as taking two steps forward after your step back.


Positive posture

The mind and body have an intrinsic connection; each has a profound impact on the other. If you are struggling to bring your mind to a more positive outlook, try moving your body there first. Try standing up straight, shoulders back, chin high, stretching your arms as far as possible.

Feel powerful. Feel positive. Carrying a "positive posture" will encourage your mind to feel more positive too.



Another way your body "tricks" your mind into being more positive is by smiling. The simple act of smiling, even if you don't necessarily have anything to smile about, can instantly change the way you feel internally.

Whether you are sitting at your desk, driving your car or walking down the street, smile. You'll be surprised how your mind reacts. Better yet, try smiling at a co-worker or stranger you pass in the hallway or on the pavement. Did they smile back?


Crabs in the bucket

If you put one crab in a bucket, it will come out easily. But if you put a second crab in the bucket, neither will escape. Once one starts to escape, the other one pushes it down into the bucket. In other words, surround yourself with positive people. It's hard to maintain a positive outlook if the negative outlook of friends, family or co-workers is constantly getting you down. If you get caught up in a negative conversation, try to gracefully change the subject to something more positive. However, if you are surrounded by a lot of negative crabs, it may be time to re-evaluate your circle of friends in an effort to be surrounded by uplifting individuals.

I suggest reading:
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Do something kind

It's easy to get sucked into our own world of misfortune and forget about the people around us. Stepping out of your daily routine to help someone else can provide an incredible perspective and fill you with positivity.

Strive to do something good for someone else every day. Call a family member or friend who needs a kind word, compliment a stranger, go out of your way to help a co-worker complete a task, or join the thousands of caffeinated people who "pay in line at Starbucks".

Life is not always easy, and sometimes we are handed a wad of lemons. However, it is our own perspective that ultimately determines whether we will get through life wrinkled and sour, or skip a glass of sweet lemonade.

I am Alegsa

I have been writing horoscope and self-help articles professionally for over 20 years.

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